Lessons in Womanhood: Part Two - Male Privilege (I didn't see it...'til it was gone)

April 7, 2018



A few years ago, as I was researching trans stuff prior to my decision to transition, making lists of pros and cons, I kept reading about the loss of my male privilege.


“Male privilege?” I asked myself. “What male privilege?”


All those years pretending to be a man, I never once thought that being one had given me any advantage whatsoever. Sure, I was physically larger and stronger than your average woman, but in terms of any other sort of advantage or privilege, social, economic or whatever, I was blind. I just didn’t see it.


I didn’t see it when I was a kid at home, and Mom didn’t make me do squat around the house.  She was still doing my laundry when I was in my early twenties.


I didn’t see it every year at Thanksgiving, where women did all the work while men watched football. I don’t even like football.


I didn’t see it when I was promoted to Shift Supervisor at a fast food joint. I was the only person on the crew with a penis.


I didn’t see it when I became Music Minister at a church that didn’t allow women to hold ministry positions. In fact, they preferred that women “be silent” altogether. It said so in the book.


I didn’t see it when I beat out a more qualified woman for a high school music teacher position. I don’t even have a degree in music. She had two.


I didn't see it at the mechanic shop, back when they used to assume I knew all about cars and gave me detailed information about what they were doing under the hood. (Disclosure: I know very little about cars, so mansplain away.)


I didn’t see it every time I was made primary holder of our joint checking account, despite the fact that my wife has always been our breadwinner.


Seriously, I just didn’t see it.


But, now that it’s gone, I see it everywhere.


James Brown was right, this is definitely a man’s world.



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